Outback Adventure!

I have just got back from what I would classify an experience of a lifetime. A friend and I were fortunate enough to travel to Daly River, South West of Darwin in the Northern Territory to visit a community and help out with students at St Francis Xavier School. The reason we are so fortunate is that this opportunity is not presented to everyone – it was only that my brother is teaching students aged between 9-14 at this school that we were able to attend and appreciate and learn so much from these children.

Upon arriving in Daly River you understand the challenge that teachers heading out into these communities immediately face. The small community of Nauiyu has a population of 510 people 86% of which being indigenous. In the wet season the Daly River floods – leaving it’s residence no choice but to boat to their homes leaving their car 5-10km’s out of town. The medical centre has a doctor fly in once a week and has a small convenience store (only supplying the essentials). 33 degrees all year round and no escape from the heat to swimming spots like you can in Victoria as the waters of Daly River are infested with Crocodiles. I remember one day when I was there I finally felt comfortable with the weather and the same day some of the children turned up at school with jumpers and jeans. It’s something that you apparently eventually get used to. It is a dry community and the local pub out of town consists of a cabin at the caravan park and picnic tables. The residents speak their own tribal languages and whilst English is not the prominent language spoken, their English is quite good. What these teachers face is the residents of Nauiyu’s way of life.

The first day in class I was trying to get Jarrod (my brother’s attention). I was helping a young boy at the time with his school work when he intervened and said you don’t call him Jarrod, you call him brother. Later Melissa one of the teachers aid explained to me that it’s part of their culture that you don’t call your brothers, sisters or cousins by their first name or if I also knew someone by the name of Jarrod I was not able to speak his name also. My response was how do you then get their attention? Melissa said you come up with a nickname for them. I then understood that one of the boys in the class name was Chris however most of the children called him Toomba (I wondered if this was the reason why).

On the second day at the school, gifts were given out to the students that Priceline and Sportspower in Echuca had kindly donated. The boy’s receiving footy socks and the girls receiving make up. Two local chemists also donated beauty cases for the girls make up.  They were extremely grateful. What impressed me the most is the majority of the boys remembered their footy socks to play against their rival school Woolianna on the Friday.

The kids loved Art, Sport, Computer’s and Dancing and were also outstanding at these things. One of the boys from Jarrod’s class at the age of 11 has paintings in the Merripen arts festival coming up on the first weekend in June. One of the girls added me on Skype in her IT class and they would play their favourite song off Take40: Baby by Justin Bieber – by the end of the week I was singing it in my sleep.

The kids were so happy go lucky and full of confidence and reiterated to me that even though they were less fortunate in my mind they were still extremely happy. I thought of how many people back home that have everything they ever wanted but still can’t be satisfied and I have even been a culprit of this. The children’s spirit and survival skills are something I will continue to carry on with me as I eagerly await my return to visit these young kids again in August.

Finally I would also like to commend all teachers who leave their families to go teach these children in remote areas to offer them the same education that we had when growing up. For something that is extremely challenging they all do an amazing job.

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Criticism!

I met a contentious celebrity last year; who after a while started listening to his criticism & doubting his message. From the public perception he was a strong confident person however to gain a following of readers he needed to be brutally honest and this put him up as a target to be ridiculed. His conviction then became weak – he wouldn’t back what he was saying and would constantly sit on the fence. He was getting paid fantastic money to do what he did (however it still didn’t stop it from affecting him personally). Even the best of us don’t take criticism well.

Time again I see people looking at buying properties who choose to have a friend a father, a mother go through the property with them. In many cases it is always nice to have support from those close to you but you also have to identify whether the criticism they provide is constructive & notable or whether it is just their personal opinion. It is the same people that generally have the advice that it’s never the right time to buy (and if you’re living in Melbourne and procrastinated buying you would’ve seen a 28% increase in your property over the last year). You have to be able to identify these people and decipher their message – they probably don’t even realise they are doing it. I say this as my family can do the same thing. Their support means a lot however they will project their personal opinions on to my decision and often argue the opposite side to any point. They mean well and clearly don’t realise that they do it.

On the reverse I have been doing it to my mother recently – she is going through the process of building a home & picking out colours. I couldn’t count the number of times I have disagreed with her choice because it was different from my personal opinion – however the things that I explained to her for example “avoid dark flooring because it can make the house look smaller” she listened to. She was able to decipher the things that she should actually change compared to the things that was just my personal taste or opinion.

Criticism is hard to take if you don’t really know the person, but can also at times be harder from the person you do know. Everyone can take a leaf out of this blog & think about these two things before you criticise.

Number 1. Is it constructive? – is the bearer of the information going to benefit from this criticism?

Number 2. In reverse, as the person receiving the criticism, we also need to be able to decipher – is this criticism worth taking on? Can I better myself in any way from this criticism or is it just useless information?

Trying not to take criticism personally is one thing I don’t think anyone will master as everyone is built to want endorsement or to be agreeable – it’s human nature.

Just remember ‘Criticism’ isn’t really criticism if it is articulated properly! Articulated properly it can be accepted as Wisdom.